Contrary to popular belief, I have my moments where I’m not always chipper, happy and positive (I know; hard to believe…).
My grandma told me growing up that the longer I lived the more I’d realize that- life isn’t fair and people aren’t nice, but that as I got older I’d learn not to care. (Okay, her words were actually that I’d learn not to give a sh**, but let’s keep it somewhat PG).
I didn’t realize it then, but she was right. And the older I get, the less I care what people say. Or think. Or do.
But somedays, like yesterday, I wish I was an anonymous blogger so that I could just spill the beans on all of the things that are irking my right now.
Such as…
…the family members who put together a certain project for Christmas and thought to include everyone in our entire family except us. It was painfully obvious we weren’t meant to be included nor welcomed in their doings. Which is fine. Because I have a project of my own up my sleeve that’s pretty much gonna kick a** and take names when I get it done. So, whatever.
…the person who keeps stealing content, ideas, and information from my website and passing it off as their own. I referenced a certain post I wrote about Blogging, Copyright & Plagiarism and it undoubtedly went unnoticed. No worries. I hear there is a thing floating around called karma.
…some real truths about life as a military wife. There are some things that I’d love to complain talk about, but can’t. Just for the sake of the husband’s job. So, as any good Military Wife would do, I just continue to keep my mouth shut.
…people who don’t mind their own business and insist on making everything that goes on in my life and the life of my family the center of their world. I love that you think we’re awesome enough to discuss around your dinner table, but seriously. You’re kind of sad.
…kids who don’t know how to act in public. Ever. And parents who don’t know how to discipline them and continue to turn the other cheek.
…bloggers who are too big for their britches (a term endearingly used by my grandma when she was around). Having lots of readers, subscribers, followers, etc. is great. It’s what we, as bloggers, all strive for. But you aren’t better than anyone else. We really don’t idolize or worship you because you’re a big deal (on your blog). So…let’s just get over ourselves, hmm?
…people who continually look down on those of us who are self-taught in our profession. Whether we’re photographers, designers, or just small business owners, who says that a college degree is required to be successful? Some of the most creative, intellectual and prosperous women I know in various areas of Entrepreneurship are self-taught. Just because they didn’t spend a fortune on a degree (which is AWESOME for those of you who were able to finish college!!) doesn’t mean they aren’t talented and don’t deserve props for making something of themselves.
…those women who sit around complaining about their children ALL. the. time. instead of being grateful for the fact that they have kids. Especially when there are hundreds upon thousands of people who would give anything to have a child and deal with the “headache” that being a mom is. I know we all have bad days and get frustrated with our kids. That’s life and it’s totally normal. But constantly griping about your kids and wanting to pawn them off on someone else? Not cool.
…same for women who continuously put down their husbands. You married him.
But, I can’t talk about those things today.
So I won’t.
What’s irking you lately? Do share!
Linking up with Shell @ Things I Can’t Say for Pour Your Heart Out.
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This is an incredibly powerful list. A few years ago I started another blog that was anonymous and private just so I could express some of these same feelings. It’s been good therapy for me. But I do hope one day I can just put it all on my regular blog…where it truly needs to be.
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Thank you, Tracy. I tried my hand at a private, anonymous blog last year but just couldn’t keep up with it. I think it’s because I wasn’t getting the feedback and the “I know what you’re going through” encouragement that I get from this site. One day, maybe I’ll reach the point of being able to say whatever, whenever without caring.
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I think the things you can’t talk about are things many of us wish we had said too.
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Thank you! I definitely agree!
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Chuckled thro a few of these, but the family stuff is kind of sad.
Chin up my dear … I am a firm believer in karma too, just wish she would head around a little faster sometimes!
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The family stuff is definitely frustrating, but it’s nothing new around here. That’s just how they are. It was frustrating for a few days (and truthfully still annoys the heck out of me if I sit and think about it) but we deal. We’re 5600 miles away, so it’s not like we have to encounter them daily.
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first your blog looks amazing (I normally read on my phone and I’m so glad I got here to SEE it…I love it!)
and this list, (as long as I’m not on it…” is really truly amazing. I am so glad for you that you wrote it and shared it with us, because these are things we all want to say, things we all feel and wish we had the place and time to write them down.
as a woman who is going to turn 42 I agree, I care a whole lot LESS about what people think of me as the years pass. I am who I am …and those who love/like/accept me is enough. And you are too Courtney. I sit in awe of you all day long.
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Thank you, Kir! I agree. The older I get, the more that I live and learn, the more that I realize that I am not going to change. I’m who I am and that’s that. You can either like me or not, but I refuse to change for someone else.
Hope you’re having a wonderful week!
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I can definitely relate to some of the things on your list…especially moms who complain continuously about their children and husbands….why bother have a family if all you care to do is complain.
Thanks for sharing the things many of us are afraid to
Trish
EXACTLY! If you aren’t going to do anything but whine about it, then why have a family?
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I think a lot of us can relate to that list. And as my girls get older, I have to be careful what I say around them too. Sometimes we just need to get things off of our chest though. And I think too that you are great and amazing and I admire you!!!
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Awww, thank you, Laura! I try to keep the negativity and ranting to a minimum around Noah, too. Even though he can’t quite understand what I’m talking about, there is so much negative energy out there. I don’t want to subject him to anymore.
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YES!! Sometimes I would love to be anonymous as well!
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AMEN.
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Some days I wish I could tell my brother-in-law what his wife is really like, and what the entire family really thinks of her. I refuse to call her my SIL, she’s my BIL’s wife.
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Oh, do I get it. There are times I wish I could tell certain family members what I really think of them, too. Tell them that no one thinks their as fabulous as they seem to have themselves envisioned. LOL
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Oh girl, I totally feel you on these and love that you did a Pet Peeves post
. I was just speaking with another designer the other day and referenced you as an “awesome self-taught designer”, just sayin, lol. My pet peeve comes when people think that they can get Photoshop one day and become a designer the next, it takes LOTS of practice and training which you can totally do in school or out of school or BOTH. Ya know?
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Yep. I get it. I have that issue with photographers. And when I sit back and look at my EARLY work and the fact that I thought I could become a photography right away (well, at least within the first few months) I kick myself. WHAT WAS I THINKING?
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Well…. I used to pretend I don’t care what other people think but truth is we do. We’re wired that way. To care. So I know some of things are hurtful to you and for that I send prayers of peace up for you. Some of these I think we can all relate to. How unfortunate that someone can’t come up with original content for their own blog. Or that someone can’t find anything better to do than to run their mouths? Jealousy. You got it going on and they don’t. Cry babies.
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You’re right. I think to an extent we ALL care what others think, but it’s how we decide to deal with those emotions that matter. I actually feel pretty good about everything that went on with Josh’s family at Christmas. Still slightly frustrating, but over it. I have enough other stuff going on.
Miss our chats, love!
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LOL. Yeah, don’t talk about any of those things! Seriously, I know what you’re talking about, Girl.
My pet peeve? People who use ‘s when they’re making a word plural. Apostrophe-S is for POSSESSIVE, not PLURAL, people. Don’t make a sign if you don’t know grammar. lol.
Blessings,
Voni
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LOL You crack me up, Voni! You seriously should have been an English teacher.
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Oh man…there is so much that I’d love to say but can’t on my blog, or anywhere else for that matter. There is definitely such thing as “oversharing” online these days, so I try to keep private areas that I don’t want random people to be able to see, etc. It would be nice to vent once in a while though!
There really is. That’s why I’m so particular about what I do and don’t share. It’s hard not to let it all spill (especially when there are so many bloggers making big bucks for over-sharing). But there are just some things that I don’t want the entire world to know about.
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Refreshingly HONEST post! Sometimes we need to just put it all out there, and those are all very real things that irk a lot of us! I hear ya!!
Thank you, Chrissy! I have to admit I felt MUCH better when I got this off my mind.
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Love the insight: “You married him.”
And there are a lot of things I want to say but most of them could be labled “political” thus inciting a riot or my excommunication. Oh, yeah, already been-there-done-that. Thanks for the great post.
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I would love to be able to talk politics. But, to prevent mass chaos, I refrain. Even with the election coming up, I choose to stay away from political banter. I like to say let’s just agree to disagree when it comes to things like that. Or religion.
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What’s irking me? Where should I begin?!?! Psycho sister-in-law, this crazy WY wind, feeling disorganized, wondering what the world is going on with people’s breast obsession (meaning we can see Victoria’s Secret Models’ boobs but don’t breast feed. Or get a boob job. Or …)
Love that cartoon, BTW!
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Haha! Are you peeking into my life right now? Because I identify with ALL of that as well. Especially the boob thing. The issues with Facebook removing BF pictures just drives me up the WALL.
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Oh, girl, I hear you.
I always wonder about military wives, since I know there are certain things you aren’t allowed to talk about.
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There are SO MANY aspects of being a military wife that I sometimes feel forced to keep my mouth shut about. Granted, I don’t have it as bad as some of the other wives in different branches of the service, but it’s a pain sometimes. Can’t say a negative word about your husband’s command or his career might pay for it. Definitely frustrating. At least we have each other (fellow military wives) to whine to when we need it.
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oh man can i write it here because i cannot write it on my blog. it URKS me that my husbands niece gave us her boys almost 7 months ago because she is the worse mother you can imagine and she even signed paperwork saying she has been medically, physically, emotional abusive. anyways she recently told us (the only time we have seen her in 6 months) about her friend who mistreats her kids and how horrible she was and how no mother should give up her kids. i thought i was in twilight zone.
it urks me that my husbands block leave was taken for no real reason, for meetings that did not need to happen.
it urks me that a close friend who only has 1 child told me that if i really wanted to keep my house spotless like hers that i could. that i have to consider it a job. UMMMMMMMm YOU HAVE ONE TEENAGE CHILD AND NO LIFE.
it urks me that people think we are poor or stupid because we have 6 beautiful children and i stay home.
WOW, this is therapy, can i come back tomorow.
LOL You’re MORE than welcome to come back and vent whenever you want!
I have people tell me the same thing about keeping the house clean. How am I supposed to consider keeping a house spotless with a 3 year old running around a JOB when I already have a JOB? Keep your head up. You’re doing great, no matter what anyone thinks!
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He he. I am guilty for thinking these things and also for doing some of them too, sadly. Thanks for sharing your Things you wish you could say.
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Thanks girl. I think we all have things like this in our lives.
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I often wish I had an anonymous blog so that I could write what I honestly thought of certain situations.
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In some ways, I think we ALL do!
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I censor myself often on the blog. And Facebook. And Twitter. I think I notice it more on Twitter. I have gotten good with it on the blog. I know what topics to tackle and what not to. I make it work by trying to stay within a specific “genre” or “topic” to keep the flow. And on Facebook it is easy to keep my mouth shut because there is more open, and public discussion. I prefer to avoid conflict, so keeping my mouth shut on Facebook does just that. But Twitter… I often find myself writing a tweet only to backspace it and close the window seconds later.
That being said, I hate – HATE – when women bash their husbands online. It is SO disrespectful. As a wife I firmly believe that we are called to lift our husbands up, especially in public. Also, why would you want to make the person you chose seem like a bad guy? It is all so backwards to me.
Sorry you’ve been frustrated by things lately.
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Agreed. I have an overall idea of what things I can’t say on my blog, on Facebook and on Twitter. Twitter tends to be the place where I say more than I normally would because so many people that irritate me aren’t on Twitter. So I can post what I want. WHich is why my twitter stream never auto-posts to Facebook. LOL
I agree completely about the husband bashing. It drives me NUTS!
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Good for you – I hope that was therapeutic, even if you didn’t spill the details. I have some of those same complaints, and some others. You’re not alone, my friend!
I really am sorry about the family thing though. That’s so sad.
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It really was therapeutic. Maybe I should consider doing this more often….
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I like this post.
Scratch that- LOVE. The more I talk with you, read your blog, etc I realize that we are a lot alike. It puts a smile on my face. =)
Haha! Thank you, Laura! I love when I find people (like you) who seem to just “get it” and “get me.” Totally makes my day.
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