Leave her a note somewhere that only she will find it, telling her how much she means to you. Or text her during the day, just to let her know that she is on your mind. Women like to know that no matter how busy their guy gets during the day, that they are important enough to them to cross their minds during the passing by of life.
Buy her flowers. It doesn’t have to be a dozen red roses, or a dozen of anything for that matter. Find out what her favorite flower is, and bring her a few…or even just one. Trust me guys, a single rose (of any color most likely…but find out her favorite) will do wonders and earn you a ton of brownie points.
One morning when you are both off work and have no reason to get out of bed early, fix her her favorite breakfast and bring it to her in bed. Again, you don’t have to go all out with sausage, bacon, eggs, and grits…bring her her favorite. For me, that would be as simple as a bowl of cereal or 2 Eggo Waffles. (Pregnant cravings…gotta love ’em!)
Watch a movie that SHE wants to watch, without complaining, and without interruption. Really watch it. Don’t spend the whole time texting or getting up and down off the couch. You may be surprised by her choice of movie, and you may be surprised by how much you like it.
Ask her about her day. Ask her about the things going on in her life. Talk to her…and actually listen when she responds. Don’t ask something, and then tune her out. You are kind of defeating the purpose.
4. Take her out. Show her off. Let her know that you are proud that she is with you.
It’s so easy when you have been together for a long time to just sit at home every single night and watch TV. But, guys, take your girl out every once in a while. I don’t mean every single night. But occasionally, put in the effort to make her feel like you are proud to be seen with her. Keeping her at home every night can give off the vibe that you are ashamed to be seen in public with her.
5. Show her some affection.
No, I don’t mean suck each others face off when you are in public, but don’t be so hardcore not to show a little physical affection toward your girl. Put your arm around her, hold her hand, kiss her in public. Those little things will go a long way. It makes her feel attractive and confirms that you have eyes only for her.
6. Don’t act like a jerk just because you are around a bunch of guys.
This is a common issue. Just because you and your girl are out and some of your guy friends are around, doesn’t give you the right to act like a jerk. When the other guys start giving the waitress a hard-time, don’t join in just because they are doing it. When they start making cat-calls at girls that walk by, don’t join in because they are doing it. And have some consideration when it comes to going out to eat with your girl and your buddies…Don’t think that your girl wants to eat at Hooter’s all the time. We all know why men go to Hooter’s…and it’s not because of the chicken wings.
7. Be a gentleman. The way you act when you are dating your girl, should carry over when things get serious.
I don’t care how long you have been together, there are some things guys should always do for girls…whether they are little girls, old ladies, or your girlfriend/wife/etc. Open doors-this includes the car door. If you a girl with her arms full, offer to help her. Use manners…this means chewing with your mouth closed, being polite, and refraining from releasing bodily gases in the presence of a woman. If it’s cold, offer her your jacket. Make sure she is comfortable. All of those little things you did to impress her when you first started dating, will continue to impress her long after you’ve been together for a while. It’s those courteous things that make her feel like she is as important now as she was in the beginning and that she is worth the extra little bit of effort that it may take to be a gentleman.
8. If you want your woman to feel beautiful, give her the opportunity to make herself beautiful.
Ok guys, we all know that your dressing routine involves a shower, a shave, and getting dressed. To a woman, there is a whole lot more that goes into getting ready to go somewhere and making herself feel beautiful (and I’ll say it for you, a whole lot more time involved.) There is shower, hair, makeup, and the all important process of picking out something to wear. Guys, if you want your girl to fix herself up, then STOP COMPLAINING WHEN SHE DOES! Nothing is more irritating to a woman (atleast to me) than to be trying to get ready and a man nagging that you are taking too long. You want us to look nice, so shutup and let us get ready. Go sit on the couch and watch TV or something…entertain yourself without bothering us.
Similarly, guys, let your girls do whatever it is that makes them feel beautiful. I don’t mean give them free reign to spend hundreds of dollars at a spa each week. But every woman has something that makes her feel beautiful…sometimes they have more than one thing. For me, nothing makes me feel better about myself than a fresh haircut and getting my eyebrows waxed (yes it’s painful, but I have a fetish about unkempt eyebrows). I like to get new makeup occasionally, it makes me feel fresh. And I loooove having my toes done. If your girl enjoys these things, let her divulge once in a while. If it’s a new shirt or pair of shoes that make her feel like she is beautiful, don’t complain because she went shopping again. Tell her she is beautiful and compliment her. (Again, a line has to be drawn somewhere…2 or 3 new pair of Jimmy Choo’s is a little bit excessive.)
I know these seem like rules for dating, but that’s not what I intended for it to become. I just believe that when men take the time to treat women like they should be treated, it makes women feel like they are appreciated. And when they feel appreciated and feel like they are beautiful to the men that they care about, they want to look good for them. Josh and I read a wonderful book called “The First 90 Days of Marriage” by Eric and Leslie Ludy that made some significant points directed at what I’m talking about. In one section, Eric says : “A woman is desirous of her husband in direct proportion to her husband’s remembrance of her throughout each day.“ Furthermore, he says, “When a woman feels beautiful in the eyes of her man, she is eager to let him know how much she delights in him…a woman needs more than to feel beautiful physically; she also needs to feel cherished inwardly.” Now, I know not everyone is married, but the point is the same. Women respond to being thought of and recognized. Guys, if you put a little bit of effort into making your girl feel good about herself, then she will put the effort into making herself look good. Most of the time, women get dressed up, not for their own benefit, but to impress those around them. If a woman never gets praised and feels like her efforts aren’t being noticed, then why does she want to waste the time to fix herself up? Think about it. Laziness on a woman’s part goes so far, and then comes the lack of enthusiasm from men.